Dear Tired Momma of Young Ones

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Dear Tired Momma of Young Ones,

A few weeks ago, I had one of “those” days. You know the one. The kind of day where you seriously contemplate packing a bag and running for the hills BY Y O U R S E L F!

It was my first day alone with both kids as my husband went back to work and our moms went home. I had a doctor’s appointment that morning so I had about an hour and a half to get all three of us fed, packed and ready to go.

It was one heck of a morning!

I couldn’t find Harper’s shoes, I spilled my coffee all over the kitchen floor, Harper helped herself to some Cheerios by pouring them onto the floor. Sawyer had a blowout diaper right after I dressed her! Then she peed on the bed while I was changing her for the second time! I finally loaded the car and got in. About to pull away, I realized I had forgotten a few things, including diapers. I ran back into the house for diapers and other forgottens.

No joke, by the time I made it back out, both kids were having meltdowns. Sawyer was crying because she was tired and Harper was crying because she’s a toddler? I couldn’t tell you why. Exhausted from lack of sleep and overwhelmed by the pressures/ responsibilities of motherhood, the tears came pouring out uncontrollably and I began to doubt my abilities as a mother. It is moments like these that reveal my brokenness and my deep need for a redeemer.

I’m sure you have had very similar mornings- maybe even today.

Being a mom is exhausting, crazy and hard. A mom of 1 or 4 or 10 kids, a mom of a newborn, toddler or teenager, it’s all hard work. And there’s nothing to prepare us for this job. There’s not a handbook with all the right answers and solutions {although there are PLENTY of opinions}. You’ve lived your whole life taking care of yourself and then all of a sudden you meet this little human that is completely dependent on YOU.

We spend most {if not all} of our time:

Feeding
Burping
Wiping noses
Changing Diapers
Pumping/ Mixing Formula
Cleaning up after
Entertaining
Chasing
Disciplining
Soothing
Playing with and caring for our children.

It’s no wonder we’re all so exhausted. And most of the time it seems like no one even notices all the work we’re doing.

No one sees the hours you spend nursing your baby even through the pain of clogged ducts or sore nipples. No one sees the never-ending laundry you fold or all the boo boos you kiss day after day with love. No one knows how many times you’ve changed your shirt because of the spit up, poop, drool and snot you constantly get on yourself. No one sees all the time you spend patiently redirecting your toddler or the time you spend making meals or cleaning toilets. All day you are pouring yourself out, being drained of all your energy.

Motherhood is filled with moments of sapping chaos, but maybe we don’t have to see these moments as terrible, useless insanity that we just have to “get through” to survive.

God is not above these moments.

He is in every single one of these moments.

He is there in the chaos, He sees. He is teaching us, guiding us and molding each of us in these moments. These moments are His tools. Like a potter with a lump of clay, He is sculpting us.

But now, O Lord, you are our Father;
    we are the clay, and you are our potter;
    we are all the work of your hand.

Isaiah 64:8

He transforms us into something more beautiful with each melt down, each midnight feeding, each blowout diaper, and each mess to clean up. He is breaking us down, smoothing out our edges and forming us into someone who is more like Christ. Teaching us to die to self and cling to the cross.

And he said to all, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.”

Luke 9:23

The commentary in my Bible for this verse says, “To take up the cross means to renounce selfish ambition; it is a death to a whole way of life.” {The Reformation Study Bible, R.C. Sproul}

I love it because motherhood is a whole new way of life and everyday it leads me to a more and more selfless life. This verse assures me and encourages me in my weariness. These long days as a momma, are not for nothing.

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In the midst of cranky babies and disobedient children, God is creating in you a new heart.

Tired momma, run to the cross and preach the Gospel to yourself and to your children.

You have been redeemed, your life has been spared.

His blood was spilled for your ransom.

You were blind, but now you can see.

You have been made righteous.

The moments in motherhood that we dread, are filled with opportunities to lavish grace on our littles, the way Jesus CONSTANTLY does with us. To love them and accept them even when they make our lives so much more difficult at times. Cease opportunities to point them to the cross, while admitting our own need for Jesus.

Motherhood is one of life’s highest callings for a reason, it is not as easy task. But take heart tired momma, God has chosen you specifically for your babies. The sovereign Creator of the universe planned for you to be their mom long before they were even a thought in your mind. You were created for this. Lean on Him and He will equipped you, He will strengthen you, He will lead you to still waters.

You are raising the next generation, molding hearts and nourishing souls, what could be a better use of your time? We must keep our eyes on Jesus and persevere.

Love the Message version of this verse:

Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed – that exhilarating finish in and with God – he could put up with anything along the way: cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God.

Hebrews 12:2

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Remember to…

Rest in His arms.

Find peace in His promises.

Trust in His plan.

Fill yourself daily with His Word.

And pray through the crazy moments when God is really at work.

Seeking the Lord daily will renew your strength and set your day on a path of grace. Grace for yourself and grace for your children.

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song.

Psalm 28:7

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12 thoughts on “Dear Tired Momma of Young Ones

  1. I would also add that finding moments for yourself will also help lead to better mothering. It’s vital that we take care of ourselves so that we can be the best mothers we can be.

  2. With such a crazy life I sometimes have to sit and thank God for all he has given me because God only knows how crazy my children can make me. But I owe it all to him for every little moment I have with them.

  3. That brought back those memories. Some days I’m glad we are past it, some days I wish we could go back. Tired mommies need to tuck those days away for the future when she will miss them.

  4. I think God told you I’d need this today!
    I’ve been in a ‘funk’ all day and do just want to go somewhere and cry and yell… just ’cause.
    Thank you for your words and honesty… especially for the verses.
    I hope your days get easier… or at least Christ is clearer in them each day!

  5. I think God told you I’d need this today!
    I’ve been in a ‘funk’ all day and do just want to go somewhere and cry and yell… just ’cause.
    Thank you for your words and honesty… especially for the verses.
    I hope your days get easier… or at least Christ is clearer in them each day!

  6. Oh, I love this. It is so wonderfully written. It had me in tears. I can remember days like these. I am a grandmother now…so I don’t have too many days like these. Thanks so much for sharing this at The Southern Special. You are a wonderful writer. And just let you know I will be featuring this at our next party, which is next Tuesday. I hope to see you there.

  7. I needed this. Being a mom is so hard sometimes. There’s always so much to do and the work far outweighs the recognition we receive.

    Honestly, nothing changes and humbles you like being a mother. The sweet moments with your child do make all the trying and stressful moments worth it though.

    With help from the Lord we’ll succeed!

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