Stop to Enjoy

Remember, you have one life. That’s all. You were made for God. Don’t waste it. –John Piperblink2 Washing our hands after breakfast this morning I took a double take at my toddler as she scrubbed her wee hands at the sink. I could not believe how tall she had gotten. She must have suddenly sprouted a few inches in that very moment. She definitely was not this tall yesterday. Yesterday she couldn’t reach the faucet, even with her tallest stool.

Moments like these remind me of the urgency of parenthood. These baby years will be over before we know it!

I can no longer picture last year’s gummy-toothless grin because it is now decorated with a full set of teeth. She no longer needs me to help her up and down the stairs, she completely feeds herself with a spoon or a fork, she can peel an orange and climb into her chair without any help.

My heart aches as I think of the time slipping by. Every new word she learns, every inch her hair grows and every dress that gets too tight, is a reminder that she won’t always be my baby girl.

An urgency rushes through my veins. Not an urgency to do more, fit more in or get more done.

An urgency to STOP.
Stop the texting, stop emailing, stop with the social media. Stop the rush of life, the addiction to devices and luring desire of staying “connected.” Stop it all to enjoy what’s right in front of me.

To enjoy singing Wheels on the Bus and Itsy Bitsy Spider over and over AND OVER AGAIN because one day soon, those songs will become “silly and childish.”

To enjoy reading all the books she wants me to read because one day soon, she will be able to read to herself.

To enjoy every hug, kiss and cuddle because one day very VERY SOON she will be too grown up for long hugs, wet smooches and morning time snuggles.

Even, to enjoy folding their sweet little clothes, picking up their sweet little messes and feeding their sweet little faces. Babies will only stay babies for a brief season and I refuse to waste this precious time with unimportant things.

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This year, I have deleted social media apps from my phone and have committed to only getting on these things when my babies are napping or during my “personal” time. There is just too much to get done and too much that I could potentially miss out on, when my eyes and mind are glued to a silly screen.

Social Media is such an awesome thing and I love it for so many reasons. It is also a very dangerous thing, with the potential to steal our precious time. Countless hours wasted on devices, pinning pointless things I’ll never look at again or scrolling through news feeds getting updated on the lives of so many people I hardly know.

One of John Piper’s quotes recently hit me hard, One of the great uses of Twitter and Facebook will be to prove at the Last Day that prayerlessness was not from lack of time.

Do I pray for/with my babies as often as I pick up my phone/computer/ipad?

Sadly, no.

What does it matter if you’re connected to the rest of the world but absent to Jesus and your family??

The other day I realized that my toddler is obsessed with my phone {mostly looking through all the pictures we take!}. I wonder why? Probably because she sees how much I love it, hold it, spend time with it, and cling to it. I’d much rather her feel that way about the Bible. Always wanting to look at it, read it, hold it, feel it’s power. I want her to know and see that I love my Bible WAY more than I love my phone.

For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. Hebrews 4:12

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My life is busy enough with 2 babies, I do not have very much free time and I definitely don’t want to spend the little free time I do have on fruitless activities. There are books to be read, laundry to be folded, people to be served, children to be bathed and so on. This phone/ social media thing has been my biggest distraction, at times keeping me from the Word, my family and household duties.

If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell.  And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell. Matthew 5:29-30

Resolve that today you will press the Bible app three times during the day. No five times. Ten times! Maybe you will lose control and become addicted to Bible! Again and again get a two-minute dose of life-giving Food. Man shall not live by Facebook alone. I’m serious. Never has God’s voice been so easily accessible. The ESV app is free. The OliveTree BibleReader app is free. And so are lots of others. Let the Bible threaten your focus. Or better: Let the Bible bring you back to reality over and over during the day. -John Piper

There’s a healthy balance out there for social media, I know it. I just haven’t found it. Maybe it’s 15 minutes a day, once a week, only when the kids are asleep… who knows. What I do know, is that one day I will be held accountable for how I spend my time in this life.

So, each day I will battle the “time war” and seek to glorify Jesus with every breath He allows me to breathe, making each minute with my babies count. I’ll probably miss more calls and messages, I may not have the latest updates on my old neighbor’s ex-boyfriend’s mailman’s baby-momma or be the first to see that Sally from my 7th grade gym class is pregnant; but you know what?! I will be chasing Jesus and what He truly wants for me as a momma– making meals, chasing toddler, tickling baby and telling them about the Redeemer.

I know I will fail over and over again, my enemy is just too appealing and wasting time is just too easy, too accessible and too much fun. On the days where I look at my phone too much, taken captive by it’s seduction, I will rest in God’s grace and allow Him to renew my strength for the raging battle. The Gospel will remind me that I am redeemed.

but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;
    they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
    they shall walk and not faint.

Isaiah 40:31

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8 thoughts on “Stop to Enjoy

  1. I think we’re all guilty of caving into all of these social media outlets, including me. I think my turning point was when I was playing with Marli one day at her table (she was 20 months at the time) and I started checking my FB feed instead of paying attention to her….and then she told me “mama put phone dare” (meaning she wanted me to put the phone down over there). Yikes. I felt terrible afterwards and try to be more aware of it now. They seriously grow up so fast and I want to soak it all up while I can 🙂
    Linh
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  2. Social media and how much time I spend on it is something I struggle with. There are nights when I feel like I’ve barley spoken to my husband because I’ve been too busy with social media. Thanks for sharing this! The little guy I nanny for is obsessed with phones too and I’m sure it’s cause I always have mine near me. I’m not even always on it but I like to know where it is.

  3. Awww! Isn’t that so true though?!? I had one of these moments the other day! It’s like Sydney literally woke up and needs new shirts and jeans. She can suddenly reach the light switch and can reach the faucet to wash her hands. Why haven’t we figured out how to slow time down yet!?!?

  4. CRYING! I feel the same way and struggle also. I love your challenge to delete the apps and go to bible app!!! My main focus is on prayer and the word this year, first and foremost, so I can be the best mother, woman, partner, I can be. Kai has always been attached to phones because of the same reason you mentioned And I really don’t like it. After having her sister she I allowed her to watch cartoons because of being tired or busy or some other excuse. Now the baby watches it and I can’t stand that! WAY TOO LITTLE! time to make some changes. Thanks for your inspiration. Savor the moment. Time to sing, dance and play!

  5. I’m also guilty of FB & insta stalking! Lol. It’s sad. I too have committed to nap time & after everyone goes to sleep at night. My boys deserve constant attraction!

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