Hey New Momma

Hey New Momma

Hey new momma,

Welcome to motherhood. Yes, I know it’s crazy. Yes, I know you feel unprepared and overwhelmed.

You found out you were pregnant, or chosen for adoption and the thrill of having a baby flooded your veins. Months, days, hours later, with heavy eyelids, you hold a little human. He’s finally here, the little person you’ve been dreaming about and preparing for.

Before he arrived you learned how to change diapers, how often to feed him, how to swaddle him properly, along with so many other useful tips. But he’s here now, which changes everything.

You feel completely unprepared for how unbelievably needy this baby is. All of a sudden, there is a tiny human in your home, who is absolutely helpless on his own. He nurses way more often and much longer than you thought he would. The number of diapers he goes through is shocking. And why in the world must he wake up every couple of hours in the night? You knew this coming in, you’ve heard the stories, but how long can a person really survive on such little sleep!?

You thought this “mom thing” would be easier, come more naturally. You pictured a life of lovely stroller rides with a cooing Gerber baby, wind blowing in your hair and birds singing along to your happy tune.

Instead, on most days, you’re deciding between eating or showering while baby sleeps. You have no idea what day of the week it is, you’re in your PJs past noon, your hair smells like spit up and all you want to do is SLEEP.

Sometimes he won’t stop crying and you don’t know why. Panic sets in. You go through the checklist in your mind: He’s fed, he’s burped, he has a clean diaper and he just woke up from a long nap. Is he hurt? Did you do something wrong? Why won’t he stop crying?

You question your ability to mother. Maybe you’re just not as good as the next. You feel like you don’t know your baby, because you can’t always figure out his needs.

You put pressure on yourself because you feel like you should have this all under control. The house should be clean, refrigerator stocked, laundry should be done and dinner should be on the table. After all, you’re just taking care of a baby. How hard could it be?

Chill out momma!

No one is expecting you to bounce right back. Your life just changed in the most drastic way, your responsibilities doubled. You JUST met this tiny stranger and you just started this “new job.” We enter motherhood thinking that moms are supposed to know all the answers.

Truth is momma, sometimes babies cry, that’s what they do. And sometimes we have NO IDEA why they’re crying. You’re not the first mom to feel overwhelmed or confused, welcome to motherhood.

Learning your baby and figuring out this motherhood role takes time. And even then, moms with grown kids will say they still haven’t figured it out. My oldest “baby” is two years old and some days I’m just as dumbfounded about why she’s crying as the day we brought her home. Unlike any other job or skill, motherhood is unique because baby is always growing and changing. We are life-long students of parenthood.

The newborn/ infant stage can be a physically and mentally exhausting one, but that’s just it—it’s just a stage! Before you know it he’ll be grown up and believe it or not, YOU WILL MISS THIS AGE ONE DAY.

So new momma,

Live in grace.

Sometimes you will feel confident in your mothering but most of the time you will question yourself. There are so many decisions to make, you will try to make the best ones but you won’t always make the “right” ones. Praise Jesus for his grace and the Gospel. We can live in freedom knowing that He is sovereign and His grace is sufficient for all.

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16

Focus on your blessings and give thanks.

We so often turn blessings into curses. Throughout the Bible children are called blessings, rewards, fruit of the womb. Remembering that they are gracious gifts and living life with a mindset of thankfulness leads to a full life.

And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:17
Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ… Ephesians 5:20

Remember that God is using motherhood to sanctify you.

Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:8-9

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14 thoughts on “Hey New Momma

  1. Love this! I’m going to link to this article on my blog this week as I share some of my favorite recent blog posts about motherhood. Still totally resonates with me as my little one is just 5 months old. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Beautifully said Molly, as always. It DOES take time to adjust, after every new baby I have to remind myself of that! It really is so important that we focus on our blessings, and what sweet blessings they are!

  3. That was sweet. It’s been a while since I was a new mamma. My oldest is 14, youngest 6 and then two in between. But reading this reminded me of what it was like. It was tiring, but so wonderful.

  4. This is so sweet! I’m not a momma yet, but I know being a momma can be so hard. When we have a baby of our own someday I’ll have to come back and read this.

  5. I lucked out with my first. Makes being a parent a total breeze. We hit our bumps here and there, but I honestly thought it would be much harder. I think having a positive outlook as much as possible (not necessarily at all times) helps makes what would be hard times much easier. Love the advice.

  6. such great reminders! It can feel so overwhelming and scary. Especially when it looks like all these other mommas are handling things with ease and grace but it’s not true! We are all in the same frazzled momma boat!

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