Infertility on Mother’s Day

I had big plans of writing a sweet post about the joy and wonder of motherhood. But as I have planned and prayed about a Mother’s Day post I noticed my prayers continued to end in praying for childless women, rather than mothers. Over the last couple of months I’ve felt a tug to pray for friends and women who long for children and dream about being called mother.

I relate to these women, as I still feel the throb of an empty womb. Unsure if I would ever birth a child of my own, just a few years ago, I was living in fear of the wounds childlessness might leave on my heart.

On the day that we celebrate Mothers, I want to remember and pray for the women who have been “trying” for months and years in hopes of experiencing motherhood, the women who have been told it’s not possible, the women who wait to be chosen as an adoptive parent, the women who have tried every drug, listened to every doctor or taken every supplement to boost fertility.

Let’s pray for those who have lost babies, those with unsuccessful in vitro fertilization attempts, and the single women who fear they will never get married and become a mothers.

I wish I could hug you right now and tell you that it’s okay. I wish I could hold your beautiful face between my hands and tell you that, God is good and faithful and that He loves you.

I wish I could whisper those truths into your heart and make you really believe it.

I know about that ache, deep down in your being, the one of sorrow, of hopelessness and unbelief. The disappointments that only seem to make it worse. The stress you feel every month, tricking yourself into thinking you have the symptoms, the crying over false pregnancy tests.

The pain is real. The pain is deep.

I wish so badly that enough prayer, the right fertility treatment, or enough intimacy could fix all your problems, but those are not true statements.

We don’t know what your future holds. We don’t know if you will ever become a mother, only our sovereign, loving creator knows these things.

I’ll tell you what I do know. I know that you can trust Him fully with your whole heart. I know that He really is good and He is faithful.

Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good. 1 Peter 4:19

And Jesus said to him, “Why do you call Me good? No one is good except God alone. Mark 10:18

The LORD is good to all, And His mercies are over all His works. Psalms 145:9

O give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; For His loving kindness is everlasting. 1 Chronicles 16:34

For the LORD is good; His loving kindness is everlasting And His faithfulness to all generations. Psalms 100:5

O taste and see that the LORD is good; How blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him! Psalms 34:8

Because of Jesus, we can REJOICE IN SUFFERING. In every season we have a reason to worship and praise Him. He is God, He is on His throne. Even when we feel like life is out of control, He is always in control.

Something Worth Rejoicing Over

We deserve death, but God has chosen to redeem us.

God is holy and pure, He hates all evil. We fail to acknowledge Him, we question Him and His plan, all while He is keeping us alive and holding our bodies together. As He keeps our hearts beating and our blood pumping, we doubt His plan. We try to do things our way. We’ve all belittled God, acting as though He is irrelevant. Since God is fully good and right He must also be just. He cannot tolerate sin. He is not able to spare His wrath. He sent His son so that Jesus could be our ransom. God poured out all the wrath meant for us, His children, onto His son killing Him. Jesus conquered death, causing it to lose it’s sting. We are now is right standing with God. We are redeemed, made new, whole again.

If there is nothing else in this world to rejoice over, we can still rejoice in this. We were once broken, lost, alone and now we are new, found and in communion with Creator, Alpha and Omega, King over all.

We have been redeemed.

Lord,

We thank you that you are good. We thank you that you are sovereign over all. We thank you that we can trust you with our souls because of who you are. Lord we know that we can rejoice and have hope in all things. We pray for the women who desperately want children. We ask, Oh Lord, that you would bless them with children, that you would open their wombs if it would please you oh God. We know that your grace is sufficient and that your power is made perfect in our weakness. Lead us to worship you and bring you glory in all seasons of our lives. Help us believe that you are good, give us faith to trust what you say. Thank you that you pulled us out of a life of emptiness and called us to know you. You are ALL WE NEED. Nothing else in this world will fulfill us the way that you do. All glory to you, sweet Jesus.

{{To the Couples Struggling with Infertility // John Piper}}

Encouragement in Suffering

We are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. Working together with him, then, we appeal to you not to receive the grace of God in vain. For he says, “In a favorable time I listened to you, and in a day of salvation I have helped you.” Behold, now is the favorable time; behold, now is the day of salvation. We put no obstacle in anyone’s way, so that no fault may be found with our ministry, but as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: by great endurance, in afflictions, hardships, calamities, beatings, imprisonments, riots, labors, sleepless nights, hunger; by purity, knowledge, patience, kindness, the Holy Spirit, genuine love; by truthful speech, and the power of God; with the weapons of righteousness for the right hand and for the left; through honor and dishonor, through slander and praise. We are treated as impostors, and yet are true; 9 as unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and behold, we live; as punished, and yet not killed; 10 as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, yet possessing everything.

2 Corinthians 5:20 – 6:10

A Promise to Those Infertile

Isaiah 56:3-7
3 Let not the foreigner who has joined himself to the LORD say,
“The LORD will surely separate me from his people”;
and let not the eunuch say,
“Behold, I am a dry tree.”
4 For thus says the LORD:
“To the eunuchs who keep my Sabbaths,
who choose the things that please me
and hold fast my covenant,
5 I will give in my house and within my walls
a monument and a name
better than sons and daughters;
I will give them an everlasting name
that shall not be cut off.
6 “And the foreigners who join themselves to the LORD,
to minister to him, to love the name of the LORD,
and to be his servants,
everyone who keeps the Sabbath and does not profane it,
and holds fast my covenant—
7 these I will bring to my holy mountain,
and make them joyful in my house of prayer;
their burnt offerings and their sacrifices
will be accepted on my altar;
for my house shall be called a house of prayer
for all peoples.”

Amazing Testimony

5 thoughts on “Infertility on Mother’s Day

  1. So well said (as always) Molly. I think that Mother’s Day is a tricky one, an eternal struggle between joyous celebration for mothers, and comforting those who have suffered from loss or infertility issues. I love what you said about us not knowing, but the Lord knowing each of us and what we’re going through. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Ohh this is a sweet, sweet post. I thought about the childless mothers yesterday, too, hoping that they could find comfort and know their special role of being mama to an angel.

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