In the craziness of life when I’m freaking out because someone is coming over and there are socks on the floor and dishes piled up, I have to STOP and really ask myself,
Do I really care about being known for having the “cleanest house” on the block?
I mean sure, that’s a great thing to be known for and that would be fantabulous! But is it the best thing to be known for? Having the “cleanest house” would probably mean I spend most of my time cleaning and less of my time doing other things, more important things.
I often have to check my heart in this area. Do I really care that much about what people think of my house? Or would I rather be remembered as
the lady who fully loved others or
the lady who really served her husband or
the lady who was always having a blast with her kids or even
the lady who was always pouring into someone?!?
In my busy life I do not have time to be all of those things. I can’t have a model home, be a servant wife, nurturing and attentive mother while serving and ministering to others. It’s just not possible. Something’s gotta give!
I think I’d rather spend my time being someone who actually makes a difference in the world and not just in the way my tile floors look or the way my bathrooms smell.
Yes, it is important to create a clean, safe and welcoming environment at home that is a haven for my family. But constantly complaining about cleaning the house or constantly cleaning then feeling overwhelmed when I don’t get everything done (which will NEVER happen) only turns our home into the opposite–> a stressful and uptight environment.
We LIVE in our home EVERYDAY, that means cooking, eating, showering, changing, spilling, and creating messes. So why do we so often feel like we have to make our home look like NO ONE LIVES in it?
“People are coming over, you know what that means! We have to hide any evidence that we live here!”
“Quick do all the dishes, we don’t want them to know we ate today. Oh no! There are dirty pots and pans! Now they’re going to know we cook here!”
“Hurry hide the laundry, we would never want them to know that we wear anything else but what we have on.”
“Puff up all the couch pillows perfectly and fold the couch blankets, they’ll never even know that we lounge in the living room or that we even throw couch pillows at each other once in a while.”
“AHH we forgot to change the tablecloth, they’ll see the crumbs and know we’ve been eating in the dining room!!!!!”
When we really think about the pressure of having a perfect home it seems sort of silly and unneeded. Like most women, I LOVE HAVING A CLEAN HOME, so I will continue to “tidy up” every chance I get.
But when I don’t get the chance because I’m snuggling with my love bug or enjoying lunch with my husband or spending time with a friend, I will take a deep breath and remind myself that PEOPLE matter more than my sticky counters and splotchy mirrors.
I will continue to choose people over the cleanest house.
Welcome to my home, we live here 7 days a week.
“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: ” ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”