The Cleanest House on the Block

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In the craziness of life when I’m freaking out because someone is coming over and there are socks on the floor and dishes piled up, I have to STOP and really ask myself,

Do I really care about being known for having the “cleanest house” on the block?

I mean sure, that’s a great thing to be known for and that would be fantabulous!  But is it the best thing to be known for? Having the “cleanest house” would probably mean I spend most of my time cleaning and less of my time doing other things, more important things.

I often have to check my heart in this area. Do I really care that much about what people think of my house? Or would I rather be remembered as

the lady who fully loved others or

the lady who really served her husband or

the lady who was always having a blast with her kids or even

the lady who was always pouring into someone?!?

In my busy life I do not have time to be all of those things. I can’t have a model home, be a servant wife, nurturing and attentive mother while serving and ministering to others. It’s just not possible. Something’s gotta give!

I think I’d rather spend my time being someone who actually makes a difference in the world and not just in the way my tile floors look or the way my bathrooms smell.

Yes, it is important to create a clean, safe and welcoming environment at home that is a haven for my family. But constantly complaining about cleaning the house or constantly cleaning then feeling overwhelmed when I don’t get everything done (which will NEVER happen) only turns our home into the opposite–> a stressful and uptight environment.

    We LIVE in our home EVERYDAY, that means cooking, eating, showering, changing, spilling, and creating messes. So why do we so often feel like we have to make our home look like NO ONE LIVES in it?

“People are coming over, you know what that means! We have to hide any evidence that we live here!”

“Quick do all the dishes, we don’t want them to know we ate today. Oh no! There are dirty pots and pans! Now they’re going to know we cook here!”

“Hurry hide the laundry, we would never want them to know that we wear anything else but what we have on.”

“Puff up all the couch pillows perfectly and fold the couch blankets, they’ll never even know that we lounge in the living room or that we even throw couch pillows at each other once in a while.”

“AHH we forgot to change the tablecloth, they’ll see the crumbs and know we’ve been eating in the dining room!!!!!”

 

When we really think about the pressure of having a perfect home it seems sort of silly and unneeded. Like most women, I LOVE HAVING A CLEAN HOME, so I will continue to “tidy up” every chance I get.

But when I don’t get the chance because I’m snuggling with my love bug or enjoying lunch with my husband or spending time with a friend, I will take a deep breath and remind myself that PEOPLE matter more than my sticky counters and splotchy mirrors.

I will continue to choose people over the cleanest house.

Welcome to my home, we live here 7 days a week.

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: ” ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”                

Matthew 22:36-40

15 thoughts on “The Cleanest House on the Block

  1. Congrats on your first official blog post!!!! And when I began reading I was like, “Wait! That’s me and my family and my house in the picture!” haha, this post def hits home for me literally bc I struggle with this so much! And with only having one baby that just started crawling I know the mess is yet to come and I need Jesus everyday to have the right heart and perspective to know what’s important about having a home! And that’s not having it spotless! So proud of you sweet friend!

  2. Thank you for posting this. I also struggle to keep up and struggle with finding my self worth in things like a clean house. I do feel better when the house is clean but it is hard to find time and energy. I look forward to reading this blog often. Take care Molly.

  3. touché, my friend. I always laugh and think the same thing when I’m getting ready for company, yet I still try to make our home look like no one lives here quickly before they arrive. sometimes we just don’t want the evidence that we don’t have it all together, all of the time. Having a baby has really changed my heart. I used to have an immaculate home.. now, I have a clean and safe home, but I enjoy seeing the fingerprints on the glass doors.. I enjoy knowing our home is lived in. 🙂 I know our daughter will remember the LOVE in our home most of all, which helps me to choose my battles, breathe, and let some things go… sigh. Thanks for posting, Molly! 🙂

    • Hey Lisa, I can totally relate! It’s okay to leave the evidence out. People won’t judge you for actually living in your house and if they do, well PSH! lol. Glad you were able to check out my blog, hope you’ll come back soon. =)

  4. I love the honesty in this post. I am this same lady 🙂

    I’ve never thought about it from the perspective of needing to win an award for how clean my house is, but now that I am thinking about it, I have no idea what drives me to this except my perfectionism.

    I constantly feel the need to look like I have my act together – in or out of the house.

    I guess I need to get over this and just “be”.

    Thanks for the thought-provoking post 🙂

    • Debbie, I am so glad you enjoyed this post. After becoming a mother I realized there is just NO WAY to completely soak up each minute with my family and keep the house sparkling. Sometimes we just have a give up one good thing for a better thing. =) Hope you’ll come back and read more posts!

  5. Molly….fabulous post! Our first ministry is our family not our home. When my children were way more little, I kept house the best I could with wee ones under foot. However, I learned quickly that my time with them was more important than a really clean house. Sometimes, I would leave the dishes to play Legos or read a book. Thank you for the encouragement and reminder and for sharing at WJIM’s Monday’s Musings. Blessings.

  6. I am loving reading other people’s blogs they have (including yours) truly inspired me and are helping me see how I can do better, better for everyone in my home. I didn’t know it before, but I totally agree with all of this! Thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom! 😀

  7. When the kids are small, it is really hard to keep things clean. I used to worry about this to the point of hiring help. Then one day I realized. If the mess at my house bothers someone then we cannot be friends. Time with my kids is more important than anything!

    Thank you for stopping by the Thoughtful Spot Weekly Blog Hop this week. We hope to see you drop by our neck of the woods next week!

  8. I struggled with learning that balance when the kids were younger. As they got older I had to back off the cleanliness enough so that they could LIVE in the house! I allowed my teens to have a messy bedroom for the first time in their lives, lol! But I DID expect to see the floor, lol!

    Thanks for linking up to Making Your Home Sing Monday!

  9. I have been struggling with this issue for years. I don’t entertain as much as I could because I feel I have to have my house spotless which I know in my head is stupid. I enjoy a clean, orderly house but have to remind myself that is not the most important thing in life. This is something I will probably work on my entire life so thanks for the friendly reminder.

  10. great post. I think it’s hard to find the balance between cleanliness and driving my family crazy cleaning up because someone is coming over!!! I don’t want my children to think we only really clean when company is coming; I want them to know a clean home as they grow up.

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